Saturday, 17 February 2018

All connected

Gratefulness, Mercy (forgiving) and Loving Kindness
They are all connected so intensely

Just giving thanks for the sun, for all the good things in our life
Giving up the grudges or any hatred that resides in our hearts
Living a life filled with kindness and bliss
These things are connected so tightly, so intensely.

Early in the morning we start our day with a grateful heart.
Thanking the world, the universe, God, that we are alife
and not just alife, able to think trust and love and to see hear and walk
Thanking not only for the physical reality around us but also for all
love and wonderful thoughts we can think, for the kindness we can feel
Can you see the connection coming

If we hold any hatred or grudges in our heart against family members,
against neighbors, or coworkers or anyone else, let us let go of these.
Simply forgive, try to understand and wish truly everyone well.
Pray for this level of understanding throughout the day and
send a wish for blessing to everyone we meet,
a kind word, a lovely thing we can do, a smile
Can you see the connection coming.

Oh, yes thanks and mercy are so tightly connected to kindness.
And kindness to thanks and mercy, and mercy to thanks.
Let us plan now, to make the next hour more filled with
thanks and mercy and kindness than the previous hour.
Let us plan now, to make the next day more filled with
thanks and mercy and kindness than the previous day.
Let us plan now, to make the next week and year and decennium 
filled with thanks and mercy and kindness.

Thursday, 15 February 2018

Five steps

Two activities really can improve the levels of chemicals in our mind that result in huge peace of mind. They are gratitude and forgiveness!

We will look a bit closer at forgiveness. It is something we often refuse to do because we do not want to free the one who caused us harm (physical, emotional or any form) to be free of the guilt of hurting us. And it is true, somehow by forgiving the person, we set them free. But what we forget is that the person suffering most from our grudges, from our hatred, from our anger, is not that person that harmed us, but our very selves. (See *venom below)

If we forgive whole-heartedly, we do a favor to the perpetrator, but a 100-fold bigger favor to ourselves. We set ourselves free from continued suffering, from continued negative emotions. I heard recently a talk (online) by Michael Beckwith who proposed five steps of forgiveness:

The first step to forgive someone, is to be willing to forgive. This is often the most difficult one. Since they harmed us, we have the right feel hurt. By forgiving truly that hurt will be no longer ours. Somehow we see our hurt, our grudges as a retaliation for the wrong that was done. It is not! It is something we can free ourselves from and whatever was done, we will no longer allow it to hurt us anymore, we will get it over with; we will stop perpetuating the effect of the nastiness that we encountered.I think sometimes we have to sincerely pray for the strength to forgive. It is somehow the way of our Creator and when we ask for help in going that way, we do get the help.

Once we find in ourselves the willingness to forgive, we can move on to the second step and that is actually do the forgiving. Saying to the person in real life on in our own thoughts world, I forgive you. Saying it, living it, feeling it. 

The third step is to try to understand why the person was so nasty to us. This is compassion, empathy. Trying to imagine what the person must have gone through to reach this level of nastiness. How much must that person have suffered him or herself for them to feel the need to make others suffer in such a way. If we try to put ourselves for a short while in the skin of the person we have forgiven we will come to a compassionate understanding. 

The fourth step is to wish the person we forgave well. Sometimes we forgave but still rejoice in the feeling of the bad karma that will come over him, or the punishment he may receive in hell. The fourth step is to give up also these thoughts and truly wish him or her will, even if the person is no longer on earth, wishing them eternal peace in the hereafter. 

And the fifth step was to really do something nice for that person. That makes forgiveness truly complete. Could be an anonymous note or send an anonymous present in the mail. Or just meet them and have a nice conversation. Or just praying for their well-being. 

I liked the proposed process here in five steps. I have experienced the benefits of true forgiveness myself and have read and heard so many stories about the liberating effects of forgiveness. I hope we all can think about this for a while and consider forgiving all our fellow humans for all small and big wrongs done to us.  :)

I read once that nobody dies from a snakebite. After a snakebite, we could die of the venom that circulates in our blood after the bite. It is the venom that circulates causing the major harm. Can be compared to someone causing us emotional harm. The insult can be painful , but most suffering and pain comes when we allow the grudges, the hatred, the negative feelings to go on and circulate through our veins. Forgiveness is like removing the venom after a bite 

Friday, 9 February 2018

Up there

Most of my life I have been living down here.
Meaning: trying to get what I want
Trying to earn more
Trying to get more recognition
Trying to be loved, to be appreciated.

And there is absolutely nothing wrong with any of the above.

Whenever I manage to live up there,
I am delighted beyond imagination.
The days I manage to just ask: how can I serve?
The days I try to give love rather then to be loved
The days I am confident that the universe and God are on my side
The days I am living from soul rather than from ego,
are so different from the days down there when I mainly live from ego.

Let us all try to connect a bit more to our soul,
have more days or even hours or minutes up there,
rather then down here. :) πŸ˜‰

Thursday, 1 February 2018

Love and care

When I think about my late mom and
the superb loving care she gave us,
there is a soft spot in my heart that jumps up of joy.

Shortly after her death, that same spot used to weep
when thinking of my mom and her fantastic loving care
she gave to her children and husband at all times
and especially at times when we were ill or did not feel well.

Surely I miss my mother still very much,
but the bitterness of grief and missing her
has given way for gratefulness, for thankfulness.

Somehow she has planted in my heart and soul
a loving and caring seed that spouts and grows
and blooms and blossoms, whenever I manage to give it space.

Her care, her love lives on in my heart, in my soul.
It is that care and love, that I manage to keep alive,
which gives me peace of mind and job satisfaction.

I am sure most of us can think back of a person
caring for us in a special way when we were young.

Let us just do that today. Think of the love and care we received.
Let us feel the presence of these seeds of love and care in our own heart.
Let us 'water' the seeds and give them lots of light and space
so they can spout and grow and bloom and blossom into
a wonderful forest of love and care.  

As we do so we will become the planters of seeds
in the hearts of our own family, friends, neighbors, patients, clients,..

Sunday, 28 January 2018


Opening my eyes in the morning,
I say a little prayer.

I try to open my mind for all the goodness provided in this world
I try to open my heart and feel all the love that is just around us
I try to open my soul and experience silence and peace
I look for some beauty and find it
I think about the kindness and compassion in this world.
I make my self available today to more goodness than I can imagine

(inspired by a video by Michael Beckwith) 

Friday, 26 January 2018


I have been part of several projects.
Projects where people need to work together
only work if the leadership of the project
gives trust and creative ownership to the members.

The times where good leadership means being in control of everything are over.
People do not work anymore for the boss; they want to work for the common good
and to do so in their way, using their own creativity.

If only more people would be aware of this, many projects could soar to heights
they never reach because the leader wants everything in the leader's way,
does not trust the members of the group and limits as thus creativity badly.

It sounds so simple, but it may take decades before we outgrow
 the old dysfunctional type of leadership.

Saturday, 20 January 2018

On a parking lot...

A lonely flower spouted from a tiny seed;
it'd worked its way through cement and concrete
but it managed to grow and finally succeed;
expression of beauty was not a mere desire but a need

We may be living in a harsh world
looking more like a parking lot than like a paradise,
with plenty of cars ready to drive over our small attempts at beauty.
But there is nothing, that can contain the seeds planted in our heart 
No matter how thick the layers of cement and concrete,
the seeds of beauty, the seeds of love and kindness,
the seeds of honesty, the seeds of compassion and awe,
will work their way through and finally succeed 
to blossom into wonderful flowers and make our world 
look more like a paradise than like a parking lot...

Friday, 19 January 2018


My son is working in Shah Alam, about 1h flight from where we live now.
He recently was at home for a short holiday and on the way back to the airport,
I had a good discussion with him.

He had recently a bit of a standoff with one of his room mates, or better said, apartment mates. They had not been talking to each other for quite some time.

I asked him whether he wanted to be a leader or a follower.
Of course we want to be leaders. My son too.

I was then saying that if we are good only if others are good to us,
but if others to us behave nasty, we respond in a nasty way too,
we are NOT leaders, but followers: we just follow the other's way.

True leaders choose the way they want to behave.
Let's say you choose to be a good person, nice and friendly.
Then we should stick to that choice, to that decision, no matter what.
If people are good, we are good, nice and friendly
If they are not good, we are good, nice and friendly.
Most likely they will be surprised by this and 
become also good, nice and friendly.
THAT is true leadership.

I asked him to try and greet his apartment mate every day in a very warm way and see how he responds within 3 days. I am not sure my son will do it, but if he does, I am sure he will learn a huge lesson from it.

I have written similar messages in this blog before,
but this is something sooo close to my heart,
that I want to share this bit of wisdom in a variety of ways. :)

Saturday, 13 January 2018

Electric !

Electricity existed at the time Moses was walking the earth.
Electricity existed at the time Julius Caesar was walking the earth
Electricity existed at the time Napoleon was walking the earth

Was it God's fault they were walking in the dark
Was it God's fault they had no light?

Surely not. It is just that humanity needed to evolve
to a level that someone could discover the light bulb
to discover electricity, to discover batteries...

Peace and unconditional love and universal kindness
are now here already in this world.
They have always been.

It is in these exiting times that we are evolving perhaps enough
to let them materialize and fully be expressed for all human beings.

Peace is here.
Unconditional love is here
Universal kindness is here
Let us just open up.
The time is ripe
Let these three come to universal expression. 

(inspired by a video by Michael B. Beckwith)

Monday, 8 January 2018


" News is the reporting of unusual things happening.
  Since the world is good and getting better,
  the good things happening in the world are usual
  and thus not considered news. "

  If we let this sink in, it'll become clear that it contains some valuable truth.

Sometimes parents go out of their mind and kill their own children.
This is extremely unusual and comes in the world news.
If we see this happen we get the feeling of "where is the world heading?"
But then we forget that at the same time there are hundreds of millions of
loving parents taking care very well of their children with a love
bordering to real unconditional love.

Most news channels and even regular channels that program a news bulletin,
are prepared for no-or-low-news days, where almost nothing unusual (bad) happens.
Should we not celebrate no-news days, more than we celebrate the new year?
Should we not excited about there being days that none of the more than 7 billion humans
gets completely derailed?

But still there are worries.
If we see the politics of America, the politics of so many other countries,
the ruthless business men; there are worries.
But still the idea of a positive psychology, of a loving kind world has come.
Its time has come and as many other ideas of the past whose time came
and changed reality forever, so will the this idea of a kind and loving world
change reality forever.

Let us all be part of the movement to get this idea into the avalanche of kindness it will soon become! 

Good Morning

I was walking with my head facing a bit down, quite absorbed in my own thoughts, when I suddenly heard the joyous voice of one of the hospital cleaners: 'good morning, prof'. I was jolted out of my closed inner world and the joy in her voice was warming my heart only in a way the human voice can. I responded with a 'good morning' too. That cleaner somehow had coloured my self-centered lone morning with the beautiful colours of human communication.

Small things like this can really make a difference to our day. My state of mind had changed from silent introversion to a certain joyful alertness, ready to continue the chain of kindness initiated by the cleaner.

Let us start a few of such chains of kindness ourselves today. Who knows one of such small chains of kindness may snowball into an avalanche of kindness enveloping the world😊

Friday, 5 January 2018


A spoon full of life
with a pinch of love on it:
Truly Delicious

A senryu, a small poem with the structure similar to a haiku.
5-7-5 syllables (the '-cious' of delicious is pronounced as 1 syllable)
A senryu is about human nature while a haiku is not.

If we take life as it comes one spoon at the time
and put a little bit of love on it, 
life is OK.

Life can be difficult but most of the time we can find some beauty in it !

Tuesday, 2 January 2018

I love, thus I am - J'aime, donc je suis.

It was Descartes who said: Je pense, donc je suis, I think, thus I am.
I want to suggest a small change to my 'friend' Descartes:
I love, thus I am: J'aime, donc je suis.

First, a small poem:

I Love, Thus I Am 
I am,
I love.
A white rolling wave
in the blue ocean
whispers in my ear:
You are,
You love.
I want to thank the wave,
I want to love the wave,
but before I can,
it breaks on the shore
and ceases to be.
I am,
I love.
The beauty of the wave,
Its silent whisper
are still so much alive.
When I close my eyes
I see and hear it:
You are,
You love! 

And not only we, as a being, are! The love we created, the kindness poured out of our hearts,
comes into existence from nothing. Not only it exists in the moment, but it goes on living
many years after our kind act. Perhaps for eternity.

The small wave in the poem, was so kind and whispered such a sweet words to me,
that the wave goes on living in my memory and its kind words are as much alive
now as when the wave was whispering them.

Of course the poem is a metaphor.
I hope it is powerful enough for everyone to embrace the truth in:
J'aime, donc je suis 
or perhaps better still: J'aime, donc je serai
I love, thus I am
or perhaps better still: I love, thus I will be (forever) .   :)

Similar message, without the metaphors 

Friday, 29 December 2017

Monsoon Winds

Strong winds of the monsoon season have started today.
Not much rain, episodes of bright skies with some sun.
The big waves of the South China Sea enjoyed the weather.
Their colors were amazing, their sound still thunderous.

The morning fresh air brought small pieces of soft sunlight
to the deepest areas of my chest, illuminating my heart;
red blood cells, laden with crisp oxygen dancing;
the joy of a lovely beautiful  morning was moving my soul.

Actually beauty tends to be never far away.
Beauty was the painter of our nature.

Note: let us do everything possible to preserve the beauty of the  earth for our future generations
 ( earth song )

Tuesday, 26 December 2017

Sweet and lovely

I wanted to write something sweet and lovely
And thought about chocolate first.
Sweet and lovely! πŸ˜ƒ
But I do not want to write about chocolate.
I love it but I wanted to write something a bit deeper.

About the good that is sitting in the core of our being.
There is something good sitting there.
Can you feel it? Do you agree?
Every human being has something good inside.

But there is something more.
That something good, is not just sitting there.It is moving around

and, no matter how small or how big already, it is eager to expand.
It has the huge potential to expand exponentially with time
And grow into something really big and wonderful.

All we need to do is give it some attention
Give it some space and tune a bit into it
And allow it to grow, bit by bit, at first
And then, the more we enjoy the growth of the good inside,
We can let it grow exponentially into something
that is not just good, but truly wonderful.

And similarly to that something good that sits in and moves our core,
We all have also a potential for expression of our main ideas and values.
And just like that something good, we can give it more space
More attention and let it grow.

I hope you have enjoyed reading something sweet and lovely.
Let us all tune in to that something, to that potential

Monday, 25 December 2017

Conspiracy ?

I have been encountering quite some conspiracy theories
about a huge variety of things. I have read them and
while some of them make some sense,
others are very clearly to be taken with huge pinch of salt.

Most of these things however are so far out of our control,
that we should not allow these truths or half truths or falsehoods,
to disturb our current life.

I think it is a good thing to have some doubts.
I am not sure about the original version of the stories,
I am not sure about the truth of the conspiracy theories.

Whatever the truth about many of these 'facts' on which people
have created conspiracy theories, the facts seem to be not flattering humanity.

We are aware that there is still a lot abuse of power going on this world.
We are aware that still so many governments are extremely corrupt ALL over the world.
We are aware that justice is far from being served in many, many places.

Let us face that. We do not have to let this wickedness that is still around abundantly,
disturb our peace of mind. What we can do is steadily work towards a better world.
We do not have to change the whole world at once, no one can do that.
We can however make small but significant differences in our own small living world.
We can make small changes in our own workplace, or school or family.
We can choose to perform a random act of kindness today and tomorrow and every other remaining day of the week.
We can choose to smile at the lonely person on the bench in the park or the homeless person on the street.
We can choose to give the best of our service to the people we know, to the people we do not know.
The more people make the choices like above, the faster this world will be cured from the ills causing all conspiracy theories and many more.

Let us start today. The world is getting better. Be a part of the movement!